David Valencia Triana & Adriana Molina Gil
Leaders of BUILT FAMILIES

GCE GLOBAL:
Hello Adriana and David! , we welcome you to this weebinar, we know that you are a very loved couple by many and we are very happy to have you here.

DAVID AND ADRIANA:
Thank you for the invitation, it’s good to be here and to be able to lead you and contribute from our experience.

GCE GLOBAL:
Well, David and Adriana, what is a married couple in Home Office times?

DAVID AND ADRIANA: Well, a marriage in Home Office time is a challenge and it is time to show that two are better than one, our experience is very genuine and real, because if the other falls, he lifts up his partner.
When we have the opportunity to have our partner, we must rely on her, be it in an emotional or financial crisis, in those moments where we cannot get up emotionally, we have the opportunity to strengthen each other.

GCE GLOBAL:
You always speak and they say that love does not go out, how is it achieved?

DAVID AND ADRIANA:
“The many waters will not be able to quench love” and it is that all marriages go through many stages and since that relationship is not paid for, when one gradually makes it grow, and when crises arrive it does not go away pay, because of how big we have built, it will be able to tie itself to this fire. Understanding that each one of us is a different person, but we both contribute to the relationship, nothing can bring it down.

GCE GLOBAL:
Did a crisis reach the homes of the world?

DAVID AND ADRIANA:
Yes, definitely yes, we are in lockdown and the governments themselves have established rules and laws, which has affected the health and economic aspects, but we have also seen the fragility in the privacy of homes. It is very hard for us to see that in eight days of quarantine, what the newspapers talked about the least was Covid, what these texts dealt with was about the increase in family abuse, for this reason cities were forced to open their family police stations. The attention lines collapse them. we were not prepared to be with our close core. This dynamic has been hard for couples.

This crisis has deeply affected the couple’s relationship.

GCE GLOBAL:
We are showing many couples at war what to say to this?

DAVID AND ADRIANA:
Well yes, couples before weren’t seeing what they didn’t want to see before or it was more bearable. In this moment of confinement our routine has changed and it is what is bringing so many crises to the family. It is also important to take into account the individuality of each member of the couple, and their behavior, you have to be mature, to talk and express always looking for an agreement and a solution. Now we are very susceptible and it is normal

GCE GLOBAL:
That many marriages are ending is it the fault of COVID 19?

DAVID AND ADRIANA:
It is in no way the fault of Covid 19. It is the interiority of each human being that has responsibility, since today many couples, due to isolation, are seeing the reality of their relationship.
But first it is necessary, to talk and for both of you to understand why you are feeling that which does not allow you to continue your marriage with total fluidity.
Couples must understand that it is time to nurture our marriage and understand each other and if it is possible or necessary to get to know each other again.

GCE GLOBAL:
The perfect social media relationships we see are they real?

DAVID AND ADRIANA:
Social networks have made a place for themselves in our lives in just over 10 years. They allow us to be in contact with other people and share our tastes and our activities. But when we have been using them for a while, we discover that we can offer the desired image to cover personal deficiencies or to compete with other users.

​GCE GLOBAL:
Many couples who are inclined towards divorce, what to do when this initiative weighs so much?

DAVID AND ADRIANA:
If it is difficult and sad to know that thoughts and mental worlds are hovering around the idea of ​​separating, but it shouldn’t be like that, you have to understand that there are dynamics that have changed, routines, schedules, behaviors. But the solution is not divorce in this moment the important thing is to respect our spaces.

GCE GLOBAL:
Together until covid-19 do us part?

DAVID AND ADRIANA: Well, when we get married they tell us I declare them husband and wife, until death do us part. But many are questioning if it is until the crisis arrives, but there is nothing that we did not know differently and that is that problems, illnesses, disagreements, differences come to marriage and today what is done is that at the first obstacle, we already take out our suitcase and bye bye!
And that’s not how it is, we must be strong so that nothing moves love.

GCE GLOBAL:
So you have to be honest in your emotions?

DAVID AND ADRIANA:
For us at the beginning it was very difficult, because there are many pressures, and in confinement we have seen them, however we realize that it is the healthiest.
And understanding that repressed emotions are a cry and makes us feel bad, however when we express them, we understand why the other is behaving like this, and many times we are not the one who provoke it, but the outside, the pressure of work, confinement, so many things, and for me the best thing is to be honest. Feeling sadness, anguish, anxiety, is normal, but if you don’t talk it’s a problem.

GCE GLOBAL:
So the best thing is to put ourselves in each other’s shoes?

DAVID AND ADRIANA:
After expressing those emotions, we put ourselves in the other’s shoes, and there we can collaborate on what the other feels, for example my wife has a burden with the children and I am realizing that it is not easy but I have could help you. When I was in the office I didn’t know what was happening at home, but I love collaborating with Adriana, we are a team when we put ourselves in her place.
Likewise, Adriana also understands the workload that I have so heavy and she helps me and seeks to collaborate with my work and she values ​​it very much, she recognizes it and this makes me feel very good.

GCE GLOBAL:
When we were dating we wanted to see each other 24 hours a day, but not now! What madness!!!

DAVID AND ADRIANA: Oh… yes, when we were dating we didn’t want to separate, we went to the movies and we wanted the movie to never end, and they gave us the pleasure of having each other, and now it’s become a problem for us. Of course we understand that it is due to mental exhaustion.